If for no other reason than to re-examine your own version of “Supermom” lurking in the back of your mind. Whether you’re considering becoming a mom “someday, maybe,” recently joined the Mom Club, or have been doing this gig for a while, I highly recommend that you read Lose the Cape. She has a sense of humor about the whole damn thing. Most of the time, she’s pretty OK with the life she’s created and choices she’s made. When life throws the inevitable curveballs, she recovers and learns what she can. When she screws up, she forgives herself. She frequently leans on her “Mom Squad,” as the authors of Lose the Cape refer to your support network, without admonishing herself for weakness. She recognizes that the quality of her relationship with her spouse/partner/significant other/coparent matters, and tries to work on keeping that relationship intact. She values her own well-being, and does her best to take good care of herself. Good Enough Mom loves her kids and makes sure they stay alive and are reasonably well cared for.
I’m just being kinder to myself, to all moms, and more in favor of … a reasonable amount of sanity. These days, I’m aiming for Good Enough Mom. What human being could possibly pull all that off, all at once?įorget Supermom.
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Supermom kept up with her busy social schedule, pursued her personal passions and interests at full speed, entertained and hosted parties with her friends and coworkers, volunteered in the community for good causes, went on lots of dates and cool vacations with her husband… I could literally go on and on.įast forward nine years, and now I see just how unrealistic and downright ridiculous those notions of Supermom were. Simultaneously, she stayed true to her pre-kid self. And when she went to the office, Supermom switched immediately to full-on ass-kicking mode, taking on every project like a boss and only thinking of her family or home life when she lovingly gazed at the smiling photo of them on her desk. She magically coordinated all household chores so they ran like clockwork. She made sure they did wholesome, fulfilling family activities during their quality time at home.
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She didn’t let her kids watch TV or laundry pile up in the basement.
She made healthy meals for herself and her family, kept the house immaculate and running smoothly, got regular promotions at work, and looked stellar no matter what. I used to think a Supermom did everything perfectly, from her hair to her job to her parenting.
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(My overall take on which can be summed up by the quote I gave the authors for promoting the book: “Finally, a how-to manual for working moms that’s actually fun to read! Lose the Cape is equal parts informative, inspiring and a huge sigh of relief that this supermom thing ain’t happening. And that’s perfectly OK.”) So what does my Supermom look like?, I wondered as I read Lose the Cape: Realities from Busy Modern Moms and Strategies to Survive, a new ebook by Alexa Bigwarfe and Kerry Rivera. I think we’ve all cumulatively piled a whole heap of expectations into the shape of a mythical Supermom, and she looms large for each woman as she begins her own motherhood journey. Your supermom could be Betty Crocker, Betty Friedan, Betty Shabazz, or hell, even Betty Draper. Maybe she looks a lot like your own mom-or the complete opposite. Somewhere floating around each person’s mind lurks their own personal ideal of what a mother should be.
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